How do I persuade my parent that he/she needs help?

• When your parent says “I don’t need any help” try gently pointing out that they no longer pursue the activities they enjoy like playing bridge, going shopping, choosing library books, etc. Then tell them how much more pleasant life would be with some help so that they could stay in their home and maintain independence.
• When your parent says, “I want things done my way, I’m the only one who knows what I like to eat, do, buy etc.” let them know they can choose and supervise the caregiver.
• If your parent is adamant that they don’t want a stranger in their house, allay fears by staying with them for one or two days while the caregiver is there as well as dropping in to see how things are at different hours of the day and night.
• When your parent says, “Absolutely not” contact the home-care agency and arrange a visit with another senior who is happy with their caregiver. Being able to witness a positive situation may help your parent to make a decision.
• Discuss what would happen if they won’t let anyone help. Let them experience a couple of days without your assistance so they understand it is best to have someone around regularly.
• Slowly introduce them to outside services. For example, arrange for someone to take them shopping or to the library. A kind and compassionate person coming into the home may earn trust and prepare them to be open to further assistance.
• Consider hiring a geriatric-care manager or Certified Professional Consultant on Aging who has the expertise to help your parent accept assistance.

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